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Trauma and an idea of the healing process we can do together

Despite the human capacity to survive and adapt, traumatic experiences can alter people’s psychological, biological, and social equilibrium to such as degree that the memory of one particular event comes to taint all other experiences, spoiling appreciation of the present (van der Kolk, & MacFarlane, 2007, p. 4).

No matter if you listen to studies that say emotional limitations are caused by traumatic events and normally stun the person's emotional development at about the age of the Trauma. So healing that inner child is of utmost importance. So that we stop reacting from the hurt inner child.  This is not about the person who did the wrong or harm/this is not about the molester or abuser, this is about you. 

So although we can talk about the other person this is For and about YOU. 

'Trauma is also believed to affect the individual’s cognitive schemata, the way in which we organize and make sense of the world, basically a person’s belief system" (Corey, 2001).

 During trauma the individual’s cognitive schemata are greatly altered, causing a large psychological shift in how the individual views herself and the world. Prior to a sexual assault, for example, a woman may have believed that the world was a safe place. After the experience, however, the world becomes a very frightening and dangerous environment for her. Her life may become centered on her fears and negative self-thoughts of being a victim. Also very important is the sexuality and how it is Experienced after a trauma. Or the fact that as you evolve, change your thought patterns, open yourself up to live 

and vibrate differently, you sexuality changes as well. Chan change mildly or can surprise you. All changes very empowered and shift to actions done from higher heart. So accepting and flowing with those shifts during healing is important. 

Because the body, brain and mind are all inextricably connected, any alterations in one area will affect the other two areas (van der Kolk & McFarlane, 2007).

 For example, “mental processes are products of the brain and body, which continuously interact with each other through nerve impulses and through chemicals carried by the bloodstream” (van der Kolk & McFarlane, 2007, p. 216). 

Hyperviligance, problems with sleeping and shallow breathing, and other physical sensations are only a few of the ways that the trauma can manifest itself, both biologically and psychologically (van der Kolk & McFarlane, 2007). l. Patrick Carnes (1997) discussed eight ways that trauma affects (also know as trauma symptoms) people: 1. Trauma reaction 2. Trauma arousal 3. Trauma blocking . Trauma splitting 5. Trauma abstinence 6. Trauma shame 7. Trauma repetition 8. Trauma bonds These eight “effects” can manifest and occur sporadically over the course of one’s life. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) (DSM-IV-TR) is one such example. When experiencing a trauma reaction, the body experiences a heightened sense of alertness that materializes in the form of traumatic symptoms, including flashbacks, sleeplessness, nightmares, and irritability (Carnes, 1997). Women who have experienced sexual trauma will often discuss a fear of the dark or bedtime, as it is during these moments that sexual trauma may have occurred. As a result, they may experience a heightened physiological response to darkness and bedtime. Although these symptoms of “…vigilance and hyper alertness being assiduously developed [constitute basic] survivor skills” (Laidlaw, 1990, p. 172) these responses also have a negative effect on the individual’s well being, confining and impacting her daily life. This intense alarm state of the trauma reaction leads to an arousal state, in which a person “seeks or finds pleasure and stimulation in the presence of extreme danger, violence, risk or shame” (Carnes, 1997, p. 11). Examples of trauma arousal behavior are participating in high-risk sexual encounters, associating with dangerous people, and engaging in gambling and substance abuse activities. In these trauma states, the survivor wants to give up these behaviors, however cannot, as the arousal state itself becomes addictive, hence acting as an avoidance to experiencing the trauma. Similarly, a person who develops a sexual addiction, another avoidance strategy, may also be sexually traumatized: spending more and more of her time engaged in sexual activity may thus be seen an attempt to gratify her needs or obtain a “fix.” The resulting “high,” from the repetitive intense sexual activity, numbs or blocks the pain of the sexual trauma (Schaef, 1989)

I always recommend all do the Tantric Journey. 

If your intention and interest is to use Tantra and this option as a tool for healing Trauma PTSD or if you are in addictiom recovery please know that we first need to chat and go over your NOW and your desired transformation/success/liberation and arrival to your life. Trauma often robs us of who we are. Who we were supposed to really unfold as. But it is never too late. 

As long as there is breath, there is hope and you CAN. If you truly want to. 

If not or if you believe you can not

Or if you want to point the finger at all people places and things then this is not for you. 

Why? Because what happened made you a victim but right now you have to believe that you are a survivor. You also must be ready to do a lot. 

From self acceptance, self analysis, forgiveness, compassion, surrender and letting go

To expansion and growth and arriving at a most amazing stage in your life. 

This is not for all. One man wanted to do the Tantric Path studies but he kept claiming he was fine and any bad came from his abusive wife. That's fine but I. Not helping the wife heal, he came to me and since he did not stop pointing the finger at the other old bat I did not work with him. 

The healing is yours. So the only finger being pointed is ours at ourselves. 

Not because of the past being our fault but because we want true self love and true happiness in the NOW and future we must focus on Ourselves completely in order for the changes to occur. Even if the other person was pure evil as some have described. They are not my cause. You and our work together is.

So we establish where you are

We chat free for initial intros and this way we mutually decide if our energies mi. Enough to work together on this success.

We do tantric journey

Then guided meditations and breathwork

Past life regression if necessary

De armoring

Intimacy work depending on the type of trauma it varies. 

And we also do more but specifically aimed at and to fit your situation, conditions, financial situation as well as work and emotional. 

The cost for tantric journey we can discuss 

For trauma expect a three hour initial session

If we have already done tbe Tantric Journey and you trust and wish to add this to your healing process, life practice then we can jump into healing the inner child and trauma work. 

Last note quote  Somatic Experiencing is a gentle step-by-step approach to the renegotiation of trauma. The felt sense is the vehicle used to contact and gradually mobilize the powerful forces bound in traumatic symptoms. It is akin to slowly peeling the layers of skin off an onion, carefully revealing the traumatized inner core. (p. 120) Through this experiencing, the individual is engaged in a healing that “requires an ability to get in touch with the process of the traumatic event” (Levine, 1997, p. 129).

All this and specific breathing is best done with a guide because remember that much can rise up, and need healthy processing. This is transformation and a journey to healing and self love.